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Hookup culture has taught us to stop feeling, stop caring, and label it freedom. But numb isn’t the same as healed. @netflix Sneaky Links star @takecaretrav admits at the root is pain 💔 #ToxicCulture #KnowYourWorth #sneakylinks #thespicylife

Spicy MU: @makeupfetish07

Hookup culture has taught us to stop feeling, stop caring, and label it freedom. But numb isn’t the same as healed. @netflix Sneaky Links star @takecaretrav admits at the root is pain 💔 #ToxicCulture #KnowYourWorth #sneakylinks #thespicylife

Spicy MU: @makeupfetish07

Emotional intelligence isn’t just powerful—it’s sexy. In this episode of @Thespicylife Podcast, @TravisArenas, star of @netflix Sneaky Links Show, joins Relationship Expert @spicymari to unpack why emotionally aware men thrive in love, lust, and everything in between. From Sneaky Links to soul ties, we’re diving deep into the complexities of masculine vs. feminine energy, emotional maturity, and the challenges of true vulnerability. Tap in, kings. 👑❤️‍🔥

Spicy MU: @makeupfetish07

#TheSpicyLife #EmotionalIntelligence #TravisArenas #SneakyLinks

Emotional intelligence isn’t just powerful—it’s sexy. In this episode of @Thespicylife Podcast, @TravisArenas, star of @netflix Sneaky Links Show, joins Relationship Expert @spicymari to unpack why emotionally aware men thrive in love, lust, and everything in between. From Sneaky Links to soul ties, we’re diving deep into the complexities of masculine vs. feminine energy, emotional maturity, and the challenges of true vulnerability. Tap in, kings. 👑❤️‍🔥

Spicy MU: @makeupfetish07

#TheSpicyLife #EmotionalIntelligence #TravisArenas #SneakyLinks

⚠️ What you’re about to hear may cause side effects: truth chills, ego bruises, and sudden emotional clarity. Proceed with caution while processing. 📣💬

If he doesn’t see your light he will only dim your brightness. While I may sprinkle a little more glitter glue than this when I’m communicating with my clients. The truth remains the same. It’s adoration or nada. No days off from #thespicylife

⚠️ What you’re about to hear may cause side effects: truth chills, ego bruises, and sudden emotional clarity. Proceed with caution while processing. 📣💬

If he doesn’t see your light he will only dim your brightness. While I may sprinkle a little more glitter glue than this when I’m communicating with my clients. The truth remains the same. It’s adoration or nada. No days off from #thespicylife

Are we living in a hookup culture… or a healing culture disguised as one?
Because behind the sneaky links, ghosting, and situationships is a generation craving intimacy but afraid of vulnerability.
We want connection, but we settle for convenience. We desire love, but dodge accountability.

Let’s talk about it. This Episode of @thespicylife is 🔥with @netflix sneaky links star @angelique_wx 👀💭 Listen or watch on all streaming platforms #ModernLove #HookupCulture #SpicyConvo #TheSpicyLife #SneakyLinks

Spicy MU: @makeupfetish07

Are we living in a hookup culture… or a healing culture disguised as one?
Because behind the sneaky links, ghosting, and situationships is a generation craving intimacy but afraid of vulnerability.
We want connection, but we settle for convenience. We desire love, but dodge accountability.

Let’s talk about it. This Episode of @thespicylife is 🔥with @netflix sneaky links star @angelique_wx 👀💭 Listen or watch on all streaming platforms #ModernLove #HookupCulture #SpicyConvo #TheSpicyLife #SneakyLinks

Spicy MU: @makeupfetish07

Toxic: Anything (or anyone) that drains your energy, dims your light, or disrupts your peace. Not medicine, just poison in pretty packaging.

@angelique_wx joint is on @thespicylife podcast to discuss @netflix Sneaky Links and Self-Esteem 💅🏽☠️ #CutItOff #Sneakylinks #EnergyIsCurrency #SpicyBoundaries

Spicy MU: @makeupfetish07

Toxic: Anything (or anyone) that drains your energy, dims your light, or disrupts your peace. Not medicine, just poison in pretty packaging.

@angelique_wx joint is on @thespicylife podcast to discuss @netflix Sneaky Links and Self-Esteem 💅🏽☠️ #CutItOff #Sneakylinks #EnergyIsCurrency #SpicyBoundaries

Spicy MU: @makeupfetish07

The Journey from Being Chosen… to Choosing Yourself Aint Easy
@angelique_wx star of @Netflix Sneaky Links: Dating After Dark joins @spicymari on this week’s episode of @thespicylife podcast to discuss “How to Build Unshakable Self-Esteem in Dating & Relationships.”

Tune in to find out what it means to lose yourself in love… and then fight to find your way back. About the hard moments when self-doubt creeps in, when you question your worth, when you’re tempted to settle for attention instead of holding out for alignment.

This episode isn’t just about dating. It’s about Self-Respect, Self-talk and Self-reclamation.
If you’re ready to stop waiting to be chosen — and start choosing yourself first, you’re going to love this episode.

Listen on all streaming platforms or watch on YouTube (link in bio)

Spicy MU: @makeupfetish07

#TheSpicyLifePodcast #AngeliqueWilcox #SneakyLinksNetflix #HealingOutLoud #KnowYourWorth #SelfEsteemJourney #FeminineConfidence #HighValueWoman #BoundariesAreBeautiful #SituationshipRecovery #WomenWhoChoose #SelfLoveIsPower

The Journey from Being Chosen… to Choosing Yourself Aint Easy
@angelique_wx star of @Netflix Sneaky Links: Dating After Dark joins @spicymari on this week’s episode of @thespicylife podcast to discuss “How to Build Unshakable Self-Esteem in Dating & Relationships.”

Tune in to find out what it means to lose yourself in love… and then fight to find your way back. About the hard moments when self-doubt creeps in, when you question your worth, when you’re tempted to settle for attention instead of holding out for alignment.

This episode isn’t just about dating. It’s about Self-Respect, Self-talk and Self-reclamation.
If you’re ready to stop waiting to be chosen — and start choosing yourself first, you’re going to love this episode.

Listen on all streaming platforms or watch on YouTube (link in bio)

Spicy MU: @makeupfetish07

#TheSpicyLifePodcast #AngeliqueWilcox #SneakyLinksNetflix #HealingOutLoud #KnowYourWorth #SelfEsteemJourney #FeminineConfidence #HighValueWoman #BoundariesAreBeautiful #SituationshipRecovery #WomenWhoChoose #SelfLoveIsPower

She is the tequila to my healing journey, the voice of reason and chaos, and the reminder that purpose-mates aren’t always romantic. She is a Gemini from head to toe!! I’m always guaranteed an epic experience with you @azurdede celebrating the woman who’s seen me cry, thrive, spiral, and slay—all in one night. Happy birthday to my real one—proof that God gives you exactly who you need, right on time. 🥂💋🌶️ 🎂

She is the tequila to my healing journey, the voice of reason and chaos, and the reminder that purpose-mates aren’t always romantic. She is a Gemini from head to toe!! I’m always guaranteed an epic experience with you @azurdede celebrating the woman who’s seen me cry, thrive, spiral, and slay—all in one night. Happy birthday to my real one—proof that God gives you exactly who you need, right on time. 🥂💋🌶️ 🎂

The seasons hit different when you’re living The Spicy Life 💍. Imagine the kind of love that sets your soul on fire in the summer, keeps you warm through the fall, melts the coldest winter nights, and makes everything bloom in the spring. Year-round passion only over here.

He bent the knee 🫶🏽@azmesq I’m so grateful you allowed me into your heart ❤️ and trusted me to guide you. Thank you for pushing through the fears and staying dedicated to your relationship goals. #thespicylife
🔥❄️🌸🍂 #SeasonOfLove”

The seasons hit different when you’re living The Spicy Life 💍. Imagine the kind of love that sets your soul on fire in the summer, keeps you warm through the fall, melts the coldest winter nights, and makes everything bloom in the spring. Year-round passion only over here.

He bent the knee 🫶🏽@azmesq I’m so grateful you allowed me into your heart ❤️ and trusted me to guide you. Thank you for pushing through the fears and staying dedicated to your relationship goals. #thespicylife
🔥❄️🌸🍂 #SeasonOfLove”

Growing up in a single-parent home taught me resilience—but it also left holes that desperately needed healing. Surviving multiple divorces and the death of a parent as a child made Father’s Day, a painstaking time of year. Now, watching my son have the father I never did… that’s where the real generational change begins. This is what breaking cycles looks like. Healing through work, change, love and self trust. For the first time in my life, I’m grateful for this day @smartjamaican 💙✨ #HealingThroughLove #GenerationalShift #ProudMom”

Growing up in a single-parent home taught me resilience—but it also left holes that desperately needed healing. Surviving multiple divorces and the death of a parent as a child made Father’s Day, a painstaking time of year. Now, watching my son have the father I never did… that’s where the real generational change begins. This is what breaking cycles looks like. Healing through work, change, love and self trust. For the first time in my life, I’m grateful for this day @smartjamaican 💙✨ #HealingThroughLove #GenerationalShift #ProudMom”

He must have read his Father’s book @marriageandfinances 📖 �💰cuz what the helly! This new generation of covid babies are built different! 😂 #abundancemindset

#money #marriage #kids #marriageandfinances

He must have read his Father’s book @marriageandfinances 📖 💰cuz what the helly! This new generation of covid babies are built different! 😂 #abundancemindset

#money #marriage #kids #marriageandfinances

Meet the squad. Snatched waists, slick hair, beat faces, spilled secrets. We worked hard and played harder. 🌶️💋 #SneakyLinksNetflix #FullHouseChallenge #GlamAndGossip 🫖

Meet the squad. Snatched waists, slick hair, beat faces, spilled secrets. We worked hard and played harder. 🌶️💋 #SneakyLinksNetflix #FullHouseChallenge #GlamAndGossip 🫖

A night of love ❤️ SNEAKY LINKS + FOREVER @netflix Tudum pre-party. I had to congratulate Lovie and Michael for dominating top 10 at Netflix and told them I’m a fan of this romantic teen drama show! Truth be told Justin was Keisha’s sneaky link for a minute. Keeping him a secret till she figured out how to handle her mama and Christian, omg! This show had me definitely yelling relationship advice at the tv! If you love a good complicated love triangle FOREVER and SNEAKY LINKS are must watch love shows for you! Also I must add @loviesimone_ and @michaelcooperjr and are gorgeous AF in person. Gifted and bodied those roles. 🌶️

A night of love ❤️ SNEAKY LINKS + FOREVER @netflix Tudum pre-party. I had to congratulate Lovie and Michael for dominating top 10 at Netflix and told them I’m a fan of this romantic teen drama show! Truth be told Justin was Keisha’s sneaky link for a minute. Keeping him a secret till she figured out how to handle her mama and Christian, omg! This show had me definitely yelling relationship advice at the tv! If you love a good complicated love triangle FOREVER and SNEAKY LINKS are must watch love shows for you! Also I must add @loviesimone_ and @michaelcooperjr and are gorgeous AF in person. Gifted and bodied those roles. 🌶️

He had no clue what he signed up for 🌶️ SNEAKY LINKS streaming now on @netflix #tudum #sneakylinks #thespicylife #holyfrickenairball

He had no clue what he signed up for 🌶️ SNEAKY LINKS streaming now on @netflix #tudum #sneakylinks #thespicylife #holyfrickenairball

Get SNEAKY LINKS ready with me for @netflix Tudum #grwm

Skin: @thebeautyplugbymaria
Hair: @angelacstyles
Makeup: @makeupfetish07
Stylist: @becmgross
PR: @_giftofgabrielle_

Get SNEAKY LINKS ready with me for @netflix Tudum #grwm

Skin: @thebeautyplugbymaria
Hair: @angelacstyles
Makeup: @makeupfetish07
Stylist: @becmgross
PR: @_giftofgabrielle_

@Netflix Tudum 2025 Has Been Spiced 🌶️ #SNEAKYLINKS streaming now 💚

Hair: @angelacstyles
MU: @makeupfetish07
Stylist: @becmgross
PR: @_giftofgabrielle_

@Netflix Tudum 2025 Has Been Spiced 🌶️ #SNEAKYLINKS streaming now 💚

Hair: @angelacstyles
MU: @makeupfetish07
Stylist: @becmgross
PR: @_giftofgabrielle_

SNEAKY LINKS @netflix is streaming now! Watch all 10 episodes and tell me what you think 🤔 Are you’re ready to leave your sneaky ways behind?

SNEAKY LINKS @netflix is streaming now! Watch all 10 episodes and tell me what you think 🤔 Are you’re ready to leave your sneaky ways behind?

My Sip & Sneak Peak was Spicy Certified. 🍸🍿 @thespicylife

To my family and friends who showed up and showed love for my intimate screening of Netflix: Sneaky Links- Big thank you for being a part of this chapter in my career. Running a business helping singles find love sounded crazy to a lot folks but I appreciate you riding with me. You pour into me, and remind me this dream is real…… and made for reality tv lol!!! 📺

@chloeveitchofficial thank you for bringing your loved ones out to celebrate the magic we made together. You are the sweet to my spice. 💕

@smartjamaican Your faith in me has been my anchor, and your love—my fuel. I’m so grateful to have a partner who champions my passions as fiercely as you do. @princetonchae gets to witness his spicy mama walk in her purpose because of your leadership and sacrifice. 💪🏽

Thank you @realproductions.inc for always capturing every spicy event moment. You’re the GOAT of understanding the assignment 🎥

@janinerube I couldn’t have asked for a better master of ceremonies, friend, and Soror to guide us through the evening. 🎤

MU: @makeupfetish07 I need you always and forever 💄

If you haven’t seen SNEAKY LINKS on @netflix make sure you binge watch it asap!

My Sip & Sneak Peak was Spicy Certified. 🍸🍿 @thespicylife

To my family and friends who showed up and showed love for my intimate screening of Netflix: Sneaky Links- Big thank you for being a part of this chapter in my career. Running a business helping singles find love sounded crazy to a lot folks but I appreciate you riding with me. You pour into me, and remind me this dream is real…… and made for reality tv lol!!! 📺

@chloeveitchofficial thank you for bringing your loved ones out to celebrate the magic we made together. You are the sweet to my spice. 💕

@smartjamaican Your faith in me has been my anchor, and your love—my fuel. I’m so grateful to have a partner who champions my passions as fiercely as you do. @princetonchae gets to witness his spicy mama walk in her purpose because of your leadership and sacrifice. 💪🏽

Thank you @realproductions.inc for always capturing every spicy event moment. You’re the GOAT of understanding the assignment 🎥

@janinerube I couldn’t have asked for a better master of ceremonies, friend, and Soror to guide us through the evening. 🎤

MU: @makeupfetish07 I need you always and forever 💄

If you haven’t seen SNEAKY LINKS on @netflix make sure you binge watch it asap!

Shoutout to these spicy certified hotties 🔥 for serving looks and love lessons on and off screen. Top #10 SNEAKY LINKS: Dating After Dark on @netflix ! Y’all brought the drama, the desire, and the deep convos that has the world questioning their own sneaky links 👀💭

Grateful to witness your trust, growth, chemistry, chaos, and charisma up close. Y’all are a whole vibe. ❤️

MU: @makeupfetish07
Hair: @angelacstyles
Wardrobe: @breflemingstyle

#SneakyLinksTheCast #LoveLessons101 #HotAndHealing #TooRealToFakeIt”

Shoutout to these spicy certified hotties 🔥 for serving looks and love lessons on and off screen. Top #10 SNEAKY LINKS: Dating After Dark on @netflix ! Y’all brought the drama, the desire, and the deep convos that has the world questioning their own sneaky links 👀💭

Grateful to witness your trust, growth, chemistry, chaos, and charisma up close. Y’all are a whole vibe. ❤️

MU: @makeupfetish07
Hair: @angelacstyles
Wardrobe: @breflemingstyle

#SneakyLinksTheCast #LoveLessons101 #HotAndHealing #TooRealToFakeIt”

TOP 10 BABY!!! Sneaky Links: Dating After Dark @netflix

TOP 10 BABY!!! Sneaky Links: Dating After Dark @netflix

SNEAKY LINKS SEASON HAS ARRIVED @netflix 💋🔥 Modern dating has become a maze of ghosting, games, and good-enough situationships. We’ve normalized hookups over healing, chemistry over connection, and it’s left too many of us craving more but settling for less.

That ends here. Sneaky Links is the show where we expose the patterns, unpack the pain, and break the cycle—for good. This is bigger than just tea—it’s my purpose, my passion, and my love letter to real, intentional love. 💌❤️‍🔥

Thank you @chloeveitchofficial for making everyday on the job hilarious. We laughed we cried, and we were such a vibe! We turned real talk into real change. We’re not just spilling secrets—we’re shifting culture.

To the incredible cast your courage and vulnerability was epic.

Thank you to the spicy squad that helped us bring the sexy heat to the screen : @angelacstyles @makeupfetish07 @breflemingstyle @jasmin_ariee

#SneakyLinks #PurposeOverPlay #NoMoreBootyCalls #FromLinksToLove #DatingWithIntention

SNEAKY LINKS SEASON HAS ARRIVED @netflix 💋🔥 Modern dating has become a maze of ghosting, games, and good-enough situationships. We’ve normalized hookups over healing, chemistry over connection, and it’s left too many of us craving more but settling for less.

That ends here. Sneaky Links is the show where we expose the patterns, unpack the pain, and break the cycle—for good. This is bigger than just tea—it’s my purpose, my passion, and my love letter to real, intentional love. 💌❤️‍🔥

Thank you @chloeveitchofficial for making everyday on the job hilarious. We laughed we cried, and we were such a vibe! We turned real talk into real change. We’re not just spilling secrets—we’re shifting culture.

To the incredible cast your courage and vulnerability was epic.

Thank you to the spicy squad that helped us bring the sexy heat to the screen : @angelacstyles @makeupfetish07 @breflemingstyle @jasmin_ariee

#SneakyLinks #PurposeOverPlay #NoMoreBootyCalls #FromLinksToLove #DatingWithIntention

Some folks are meant to stay secrets and some are meant to be chosen. 🤫 May 21st SNEAKY LINKS @netflix

Some folks are meant to stay secrets and some are meant to be chosen. 🤫 May 21st SNEAKY LINKS @netflix

Feeling disconnected in the bedroom?
This week on @thespicylife, we’re turning up the heat with “How to Solve a Sexless Relationship.”

Relationship expert @spicymari teams up with Psychologist & Sex Therapist @drshannonchavez to break down the real reasons intimacy fades—and how to reignite the flame.

Expect juicy insights on:
🔥 Reclaiming your pleasure identity
🔥 Identifying what you truly need in the bedroom
🔥 Navigating those “we need to talk” moments with care
🔥 How confidence affects your desire
🔥 Creating a safe space for love to evolve through every season

Whether you’re in a dry spell or just craving deeper connection, this one’s for you.Tap in, turn on, and tune into the truth.

Spicy MU: @makeupfetish07

#relationshipexpert #energyhealing #spiritualhealing #spiritualgrowth ##breakup #healing #communication #PuposeMates #Powercouple #Love #passion #thespicylife #Dating #spicytips #relationships #relationshipgoals #relationship #couple #marriage #couplegoals #couples #romance #thespicylife

Feeling disconnected in the bedroom?
This week on @thespicylife, we’re turning up the heat with “How to Solve a Sexless Relationship.”

Relationship expert @spicymari teams up with Psychologist & Sex Therapist @drshannonchavez to break down the real reasons intimacy fades—and how to reignite the flame.

Expect juicy insights on:
🔥 Reclaiming your pleasure identity
🔥 Identifying what you truly need in the bedroom
🔥 Navigating those “we need to talk” moments with care
🔥 How confidence affects your desire
🔥 Creating a safe space for love to evolve through every season

Whether you’re in a dry spell or just craving deeper connection, this one’s for you.Tap in, turn on, and tune into the truth.

Spicy MU: @makeupfetish07

#relationshipexpert #energyhealing #spiritualhealing #spiritualgrowth ##breakup #healing #communication #PuposeMates #Powercouple #Love #passion #thespicylife #Dating #spicytips #relationships #relationshipgoals #relationship #couple #marriage #couplegoals #couples #romance #thespicylife

My Mama- “One day you will be a mother and understand.” Maturing is realizing my mom was right about everything she said. Parenting is legit insanity, but let me insert a positive message as well because it is truly a miracle and incredible blessing. I’m grateful for having such powerful women in my life who laid the foundation for what it means to be a woman and a spicy mama. 🌶️ Special shoutout to sisters as well helping raise their siblings kids. It takes a Kingdom.

A mother’s love is a sacred force. It’s fierce, gentle, and endlessly divine. It’s the echo of heaven in a whisper, the strength behind our steps, the prayer that protects us before we even know we need it. She sacrifices silently, believes boldly, and loves beyond measure. Her love doesn’t just nurture—it awakens, anchors, and empowers.

My Mama- “One day you will be a mother and understand.” Maturing is realizing my mom was right about everything she said. Parenting is legit insanity, but let me insert a positive message as well because it is truly a miracle and incredible blessing. I’m grateful for having such powerful women in my life who laid the foundation for what it means to be a woman and a spicy mama. 🌶️ Special shoutout to sisters as well helping raise their siblings kids. It takes a Kingdom.

A mother’s love is a sacred force. It’s fierce, gentle, and endlessly divine. It’s the echo of heaven in a whisper, the strength behind our steps, the prayer that protects us before we even know we need it. She sacrifices silently, believes boldly, and loves beyond measure. Her love doesn’t just nurture—it awakens, anchors, and empowers.

Spicy Logic 🌶️ Having a trip booked encourages you to work. So traveling is actually a source of income rather than an expense.

@georgiasgems hooked me up with the sexiest custom set. Swim top, skirt, cover up etc. I needed all the options. Order your pieces 👙 and watch them checks roll in.

Spicy Logic 🌶️ Having a trip booked encourages you to work. So traveling is actually a source of income rather than an expense.

@georgiasgems hooked me up with the sexiest custom set. Swim top, skirt, cover up etc. I needed all the options. Order your pieces 👙 and watch them checks roll in.

Love what you do and who you do it with ♥️♥️♥️

Love what you do and who you do it with ♥️♥️♥️

Always lie to me about what time we need to be there.

#RP @ungettablegirl

Always lie to me about what time we need to be there.

#RP @ungettablegirl

I choose happiness. 📸 Spicy Wife, Spicy Life 🌶️

#relationshipexpert #energyhealing #spiritualhealing #spiritualgrowth #healingvibrations #mataphysicalhealing #energywork #lightworker #highvibrations #divineguidance #PuposeMates #Powercouple #Love #passion #thespicylife #Dating #spicytips #relationships #relationshipgoals #relationship #couple #marriage #couplegoals #couples #romance #spicytip #matchmaker #purposemate #soulmate

I choose happiness. 📸 Spicy Wife, Spicy Life 🌶️

#relationshipexpert #energyhealing #spiritualhealing #spiritualgrowth #healingvibrations #mataphysicalhealing #energywork #lightworker #highvibrations #divineguidance #PuposeMates #Powercouple #Love #passion #thespicylife #Dating #spicytips #relationships #relationshipgoals #relationship #couple #marriage #couplegoals #couples #romance #spicytip #matchmaker #purposemate #soulmate

Real love hits different when it’s built on God’s Word not just vibes. You gotta learn to recognize the difference between a man who wants fleeting moments of passion and a man who wants you a part of his purpose. #Spicylove #KingdomLove #GodlyCouple”

Real love hits different when it’s built on God’s Word not just vibes. You gotta learn to recognize the difference between a man who wants fleeting moments of passion and a man who wants you a part of his purpose. #Spicylove #KingdomLove #GodlyCouple”

Maybe every cruel word you said was a truth you’d buried for too long. Or maybe, without meaning to, you shattered something delicate with words they misunderstood. Either way, the damage was done.

If you really want to save what’s left, if you want to calm the storm you helped create, start with an apology.

The impact of what you said can look very different from what you intended, so take accountability for that and apologize out of respect for their heart.

Maybe every cruel word you said was a truth you’d buried for too long. Or maybe, without meaning to, you shattered something delicate with words they misunderstood. Either way, the damage was done.

If you really want to save what’s left, if you want to calm the storm you helped create, start with an apology.

The impact of what you said can look very different from what you intended, so take accountability for that and apologize out of respect for their heart.

ME: Im not celebrating this year
SPICY FRIENDS: F*ck that! 🌶️ Surprise!!!!

A true friend is a rare kind of soul — one who sees you as you are, remembers where you’ve been, embraces who you’ve become, and still, gently makes space for who you’re becoming.

Sure romantic love can sweep you off your feet, but friendship? Friendship is the ground you walk on. It’s the steady heartbeat beneath life’s chaos — the one that doesn’t just celebrate your wins but sits with you in your losses. Real friends don’t just admire your highlight reel; they know your scars, your setbacks, your silent battles — and they love you not in spite of it all, but because of it.

This kind of love is rare.
When you find it, cherish it.
Through the marriages, the babies, the promotions, the relocations — nurture it. Because friends like that? They don’t just walk with you — they help you rise.
MU: @makeupfetish07

ME: Im not celebrating this year
SPICY FRIENDS: F*ck that! 🌶️ Surprise!!!!

A true friend is a rare kind of soul — one who sees you as you are, remembers where you’ve been, embraces who you’ve become, and still, gently makes space for who you’re becoming.

Sure romantic love can sweep you off your feet, but friendship? Friendship is the ground you walk on. It’s the steady heartbeat beneath life’s chaos — the one that doesn’t just celebrate your wins but sits with you in your losses. Real friends don’t just admire your highlight reel; they know your scars, your setbacks, your silent battles — and they love you not in spite of it all, but because of it.

This kind of love is rare.
When you find it, cherish it.
Through the marriages, the babies, the promotions, the relocations — nurture it. Because friends like that? They don’t just walk with you — they help you rise.
MU: @makeupfetish07

A man who can’t recognize the worth of a good woman is blind — not just in sight, but in soul, heart, and mind. Trying to prove your love and light to someone who refuses to see it will only drag you into darkness. His every word and move will reflect that blindness — not your beauty. #spicytip

A man who can’t recognize the worth of a good woman is blind — not just in sight, but in soul, heart, and mind. Trying to prove your love and light to someone who refuses to see it will only drag you into darkness. His every word and move will reflect that blindness — not your beauty. #spicytip

When disagreeing with you partner, you don’t have to be silent, you just have to be wise. #spicytip From the well of the tongue flows fire or healing — Your tongue is a small muscle with mighty power — it can build dreams or break spirits.

Relationship expert @SpicyMari sits down with author and mental health expert Dr. Jay Barnett @Kingjaybarnett to dive deep into “How Men Can Overcome Depression & Build Confidence.” Check out this episode of @thespicylife podcast available on all streaming platforms.

Spicy MU: @makeupfetish07

When disagreeing with you partner, you don’t have to be silent, you just have to be wise. #spicytip From the well of the tongue flows fire or healing — Your tongue is a small muscle with mighty power — it can build dreams or break spirits.

Relationship expert @SpicyMari sits down with author and mental health expert Dr. Jay Barnett @Kingjaybarnett to dive deep into “How Men Can Overcome Depression & Build Confidence.” Check out this episode of @thespicylife podcast available on all streaming platforms.

Spicy MU: @makeupfetish07

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(Period).

Ladies, are you mindful of the way you speak to your sons? Are you shaping them into men who can thrive in healthy relationships?

Author and Mental Health Expert Dr. Jay Barnett @Kingjaybarnett sits down with Relationship Expert @SpicyMari on @TheSpicyLife Podcast to dive deep into “How Men Can Overcome Depression & Build Confidence.”

The way we communicate with our sons has a lasting impact on their emotional well-being and the relationships they form as adults. Are we empowering them with love, affirmation, and emotional intelligence? Or are we unknowingly reinforcing patterns that lead to insecurity and detachment?

Tune in for a powerful conversation that will challenge the way we raise and support the next generation of men!

MU: @makeupfetish07

Ladies, are you mindful of the way you speak to your sons? Are you shaping them into men who can thrive in healthy relationships?

Author and Mental Health Expert Dr. Jay Barnett @Kingjaybarnett sits down with Relationship Expert @SpicyMari on @TheSpicyLife Podcast to dive deep into “How Men Can Overcome Depression & Build Confidence.”

The way we communicate with our sons has a lasting impact on their emotional well-being and the relationships they form as adults. Are we empowering them with love, affirmation, and emotional intelligence? Or are we unknowingly reinforcing patterns that lead to insecurity and detachment?

Tune in for a powerful conversation that will challenge the way we raise and support the next generation of men!

MU: @makeupfetish07

You’re welcome ❤️

#RP @love.quotes

You’re welcome ❤️

#RP @love.quotes

This episode of The Spicy Life Podcast is straight fire! If life has you feeling lost, it’s time to find your way back. You are not alone. You are loved. You are worthy. And if you’re ready to heal the wounds that have been holding you back, this is your moment.

Relationship expert @SpicyMari sits down with author and mental health expert Dr. Jay Barnett @Kingjaybarnett to dive deep into “How Men Can Overcome Depression & Build Confidence.”

Get ready for some spicy insights on:

🔥 Acknowledging the depths of your pain
🔥 What true healing really looks like
🔥 How men can uplift and support each other
🔥 Ways women can show empathy to men
🔥 The difference between serving him and saving him

This episode isn’t just a conversation—it’s an invitation to healing, growth, and the power of community. Don’t miss it!

Spicy MU: @makeupfetish07

#relationshipexpert #energyhealing #spiritualhealing #spiritualgrowth #malevsman #jaybarnett #breakup #healing #communication #PuposeMates #Powercouple #Love #passion #thespicylife #Dating #spicytips #relationships #relationshipgoals #relationship #couple #marriage #couplegoals #couples #romance #thespicylife

This episode of The Spicy Life Podcast is straight fire! If life has you feeling lost, it’s time to find your way back. You are not alone. You are loved. You are worthy. And if you’re ready to heal the wounds that have been holding you back, this is your moment.

Relationship expert @SpicyMari sits down with author and mental health expert Dr. Jay Barnett @Kingjaybarnett to dive deep into “How Men Can Overcome Depression & Build Confidence.”

Get ready for some spicy insights on:

🔥 Acknowledging the depths of your pain
🔥 What true healing really looks like
🔥 How men can uplift and support each other
🔥 Ways women can show empathy to men
🔥 The difference between serving him and saving him

This episode isn’t just a conversation—it’s an invitation to healing, growth, and the power of community. Don’t miss it!

Spicy MU: @makeupfetish07

#relationshipexpert #energyhealing #spiritualhealing #spiritualgrowth #malevsman #jaybarnett #breakup #healing #communication #PuposeMates #Powercouple #Love #passion #thespicylife #Dating #spicytips #relationships #relationshipgoals #relationship #couple #marriage #couplegoals #couples #romance #thespicylife

Spicy mood. 🌶️

#RP @upliftwithvanessa

Spicy mood. 🌶️

#RP @upliftwithvanessa

I want my man to trust I am capable of doing everything, but smart enough not to let me🦸🏾‍♂️

#thespicylife #spicytip #spicymari #marriageandfinances

I want my man to trust I am capable of doing everything, but smart enough not to let me🦸🏾‍♂️

#thespicylife #spicytip #spicymari #marriageandfinances

You ain’t about to be around me and feel comfortable being stagnant. You bout to believe you can have it all or end up hating my guts 🤷🏽‍♀️ #spicytip

You ain’t about to be around me and feel comfortable being stagnant. You bout to believe you can have it all or end up hating my guts 🤷🏽‍♀️ #spicytip

The FIRST & the FINEST! 🩷💚✨

Our sisterhood showed up and showed OUT at the 96th Far Western Regional Conference! From excellence to elegance, we continue to set the standard and make an impact. 💅🏽💕

Proud to represent Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated with grace, style, and a whole lot of Pretty Girl Magic! 🌟💚

@akafarwestern @roxannstinfil @sherrie_brady

#AKAFWRC #PrettyGirlsWear20Pearls #SkeeWee #FirstAndFinest #SisterhoodInAction

The FIRST & the FINEST! 🩷💚✨

Our sisterhood showed up and showed OUT at the 96th Far Western Regional Conference! From excellence to elegance, we continue to set the standard and make an impact. 💅🏽💕

Proud to represent Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated with grace, style, and a whole lot of Pretty Girl Magic! 🌟💚

@akafarwestern @roxannstinfil @sherrie_brady

#AKAFWRC #PrettyGirlsWear20Pearls #SkeeWee #FirstAndFinest #SisterhoodInAction

I’m the kind of problem you keep for life🌶️

I’m the kind of problem you keep for life🌶️

Oakland, CA, get ready—because the Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated 96th Far Western Regional Conference has officially landed! 💕💚 @akafarwestern
@msnicholestarr

We’ve touched down with purpose, kicking things off with an unstoppable Sisterhood Circle, celebrating the fire and brilliance of local entrepreneurs. The energy is high, the vibes are unmatched, and this is just the beginning! 💅🏽🩷💚 #akafwrc

Oakland, CA, get ready—because the Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated 96th Far Western Regional Conference has officially landed! 💕💚 @akafarwestern
@msnicholestarr

We’ve touched down with purpose, kicking things off with an unstoppable Sisterhood Circle, celebrating the fire and brilliance of local entrepreneurs. The energy is high, the vibes are unmatched, and this is just the beginning! 💅🏽🩷💚 #akafwrc

😭 lol 😂 Wasting a woman’s time should result in compensatory damages, workers comp, a stimulus check, maybe a lulu lemon gift card 🤷🏽‍♀️ Something!! Cuz time is money honey 💵

😭 lol 😂 Wasting a woman’s time should result in compensatory damages, workers comp, a stimulus check, maybe a lulu lemon gift card 🤷🏽‍♀️ Something!! Cuz time is money honey 💵

God is cooking up something amazing for your life 👨🏽‍🍳. Are able to take those lessons and see them as blessings?

On this podcast episode of @thespicylife Relationship Expert @spicymari sits down with author, producer, and coach @bjthedreamer to discuss “How To Breathe Life Into Your Dreams.”

Things aren’t happening to you, they are happening through you. If you’re in need of a mindset shift, then this is the episode for you!

#relationshipexpert #energyhealing #spiritualhealing #Author #Dreams #BrianJohnson #writinggoals #rickeysmiley #PuposeMates #Powercouple #Love #passion #thespicylife #Dating #spicytips #relationships #relationshipgoals #relationship #couple #marriage #couplegoals #couples #romance

God is cooking up something amazing for your life 👨🏽‍🍳. Are able to take those lessons and see them as blessings?

On this podcast episode of @thespicylife Relationship Expert @spicymari sits down with author, producer, and coach @bjthedreamer to discuss “How To Breathe Life Into Your Dreams.”

Things aren’t happening to you, they are happening through you. If you’re in need of a mindset shift, then this is the episode for you!

#relationshipexpert #energyhealing #spiritualhealing #Author #Dreams #BrianJohnson #writinggoals #rickeysmiley #PuposeMates #Powercouple #Love #passion #thespicylife #Dating #spicytips #relationships #relationshipgoals #relationship #couple #marriage #couplegoals #couples #romance

What a girl really wants ♥️ #valentines #valentineday

What a girl really wants ♥️ #valentines #valentineday

A dream without a plan is just a wish. If fear or self-doubt is holding you back from accomplishing your vision for the future, you definitely need to listen to this week’s podcast episode of @thespicylife “How To Breathe Life Into Your Dreams ft. @bjthedreamer 📖 Tune in as Relationship Expert @spicymari sits down with her awesome writing coach to discuss how to use your trials and tribulations to birth greatness.

#relationshipexpert #energyhealing #spiritualhealing #Author #Dreams #BrianJohnson #writinggoals #highvibrations #PuposeMates #Powercouple #Love #passion #thespicylife #Dating #spicytips #relationships #relationshipgoals #relationship #couple #marriage #couplegoals #couples #romance

A dream without a plan is just a wish. If fear or self-doubt is holding you back from accomplishing your vision for the future, you definitely need to listen to this week’s podcast episode of @thespicylife “How To Breathe Life Into Your Dreams ft. @bjthedreamer 📖 Tune in as Relationship Expert @spicymari sits down with her awesome writing coach to discuss how to use your trials and tribulations to birth greatness.

#relationshipexpert #energyhealing #spiritualhealing #Author #Dreams #BrianJohnson #writinggoals #highvibrations #PuposeMates #Powercouple #Love #passion #thespicylife #Dating #spicytips #relationships #relationshipgoals #relationship #couple #marriage #couplegoals #couples #romance

I have sympathy for your wounds fellas but get help. Our wounds make us weak. Healed men don’t have to lie and sneak and strong men exercise discipline and control. Know your weaknesses and avoid compromising situations. Work through your challenges or walk away, but don’t cheat. If you are weak and need help let’s chat.

I have sympathy for your wounds fellas but get help. Our wounds make us weak. Healed men don’t have to lie and sneak and strong men exercise discipline and control. Know your weaknesses and avoid compromising situations. Work through your challenges or walk away, but don’t cheat. If you are weak and need help let’s chat.

What a difference a braid makes!!!@angelacstyles said “let me help you level up!” She smoothed my hairline and styled the braid with her braid and twist gel from her collection with @cantubeauty added a little length to my hair and then created the natural look of my curls using a custom colored texture from her extensions line @trace__beauty

Gave my husband a whole new wife. My girl took me from average to savage!

MU: @makeupfetish07
Wardrobe: @breflemingstyle

What a difference a braid makes!!!@angelacstyles said “let me help you level up!” She smoothed my hairline and styled the braid with her braid and twist gel from her collection with @cantubeauty added a little length to my hair and then created the natural look of my curls using a custom colored texture from her extensions line @trace__beauty

Gave my husband a whole new wife. My girl took me from average to savage!

MU: @makeupfetish07
Wardrobe: @breflemingstyle

A wise man sees an asset, a fool sees a liability. Stay spicy ladies 🌶️

A wise man sees an asset, a fool sees a liability. Stay spicy ladies 🌶️

Sis is not physically flexible. Sis is mentally and emotionally flexible. I am sis. Sis is me. lol

My trainer 🤸🏽‍♀️🧘🏽‍♀️@agostinafitness however is a human pretzel 🥨

Feminine flexibility: The ability to pivot, stretch, bend but not break is one of our most powerful gifts. It is why we have the aptitude to forgive, heal, love, grow and nurture everything we touch.

We flow.

I love us women, and women love me ♥️ We are the most exquisite creatures naturally.

If you want to become physically strong 💪🏽 you reach out to my trainer. You want to master pivoting between the beauty of your masculinity and femininity, schedule a consultation with me.

#feminine #masculine #thespicylife

Sis is not physically flexible. Sis is mentally and emotionally flexible. I am sis. Sis is me. lol

My trainer 🤸🏽‍♀️🧘🏽‍♀️@agostinafitness however is a human pretzel 🥨

Feminine flexibility: The ability to pivot, stretch, bend but not break is one of our most powerful gifts. It is why we have the aptitude to forgive, heal, love, grow and nurture everything we touch.

We flow.

I love us women, and women love me ♥️ We are the most exquisite creatures naturally.

If you want to become physically strong 💪🏽 you reach out to my trainer. You want to master pivoting between the beauty of your masculinity and femininity, schedule a consultation with me.

#feminine #masculine #thespicylife

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